Blurry Reflections

2019 was a blur…

Not in a “…I can’t remember what exactly happened” way, but in a “…things are moving so fast, and there’s not a lot I can do about it” way.

My last post was months ago (July to be precise), and honestly I didn’t do that on purpose. With the way life came at me this year, it was difficult for me to put down a couple of sentences to form a post.

Believe me, I tried.

I even considered closing the blog because of the way things were going.

If you could look through my drafts, you would see my failed attempts to put together posts. After struggling with myself, I realized I have to keep pushing, and making conscious efforts towards putting out quality content.

I’m very sure this will not happen if I sit around being unmotivated.

Thankfully, I’ve been learning to breathe and take life slowly, and I think I’m in a much better place mentally than I was 3 months ago.

To keep you in the loop with the events unfolding in my life, I thought it would be nice to share some of the lessons life taught me these past few months.

Some lessons I willingly learnt, and most of them, I had shoved down my throat.
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One very important thing I’ve learned recently is how therapeutic sharing your thoughts with SOMEONE YOU TRUST is. Notice I capitalized who in particular you should be sharing your thoughts with?

Not everybody.

Everyone should not have up-to-date info on how your life is going.

If you had asked me about this topic for the most part of 2016 – 2018, I most likely would’ve told you to keep your thoughts to yourself because I was totally about that life. I didn’t trust anyone well enough because, I had done it before, and it came back to slap me in the face.

Thankfully, I have learned to build friendships with people that really matter. Also, a certain someone walked into the picture recently, and now I have someone whom I can transfer all the clutter in my head to 😘


Life will not always go how you want it to, and that is totally okay.

This was one of the lessons I had shoved down my throat.

I never really did the whole 10 years plan thing, but I definitely had a way I wanted my life to be at this stage. Imagine my shock surprise when life wrestled the steering wheel from my hands and took off in another direction.

Okay. okay wait! I might have been a bit dramatic there, but really though, life will do you dirty sometimes.

In my mind, by 25 I should’ve been ‘comfortable’ enough to afford certain things (like a Range Rover Sport), but LOL. On the bright side, I can afford certain things, and I am grateful for that.

Thankfully, I’ve never been in a rush to get married and settle down, so I’m still not bothered that hasn’t happened yet.

Now that I think about it, life didn’t turn out too badly. I’m still fairly young and have a long life ahead of me. So while I navigate my 20s, i’ll put my hands towards working hard at whatever I set out to do.



Need I say more? Nope πŸšΆπŸ½β€β™€οΈ


Do not ignore red flags.

These guys are out here wilding!!!

Early this year, while I was trying very hard to focus on rounding up my thesis for my Masters degree, I met this guy.

Long story short, this guy did and said everything possible to get me to do stuff that clearly stood against my stance on certain issues. When I didn’t bend, he resorted to gaslighting and guilt-tripping. Although it’s sad I fell for some of his tactics, I’m super proud of myself for seeing through the BS.

Long story short, I removed myself from the situation. Thank goodness I did, because I later found out that this same selfish guy was making moves outside our ‘relationship’.

I’m not going to lie and say I didn’t see some of the red flags, but I ignored them.

Don’t be like me. Run when you see the red flags. Run away very quickly.



Rest is important

If you do not rest, you will die.

Sleep is not for the weak. Sleep is an essential function for your survival as a living, breathing human being.

You know those people who put up pictures with ridiculous quotes like –

“A consistent struggle is necessarily to build the rich and famous lifestyle you deserve”. πŸ™„

“Your 9-5 isn’t enough, take on several side hustles to be the boss you were made to be” πŸ™„

Ignore those people and their quotes. 10 out of 10 times, it’s just a really unreasonable person who sits down to create those quotes and the accompanying pictures.

Take things at a steady pace and make sure to get loads of rest. If rest for you means praying, sleeping, taking food breaks, listening to music, taking a bath, or even just lazying about, do you πŸ›€πŸ½

I tethered on the edge of a mental breakdown in October because I failed terribly when it came to resting. Thank God for a partner who bought food for me and reassured me that life would turn out well in the end ❀️

I’m grateful for the lessons I have learned this year, and I’m even more grateful for the people God put in my way to help me navigate the stages and seasons I passed through.

I’m still learning and growing, and working towards sharing even more experiences with you all.

Did you learn any lessons this year, or in the past decade that you would love to share with others, if yes, please drop a comment in the comments section. I would love to hear from you ❀️

P.S – I’ll be making a big announcement in the next couple of posts, and I would really need your support on it. Some people already know, but y’all should be expectant 😌

Current Favorites πŸ“¦


Mythical Monsters

The Twenty5 Podcast


Sprouts – Download on the Google Playstore here

Lomo – Download on the Google Playstore here

Pomelo – Download on the Google Playstore here

YouTube Channel

Alexis Gilbert – VLOGS

TV Shows

The Mandalorian

With love,

Ihuoma πŸ₯ž


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  1. Mason Armani Music January 8, 2020 — 4:50 pm

    Thanks for sharing this contemplative bit.


  2. Dear Ma’am Charlieeee…
    You have a sound mind.
    This fascinating read…simply resonates with everyone of us.

    Thank you for exposing me to Castbox, in the past year. Stuff helped me pull through the most difficult time in my life, yet.

    More so, Intentionality with My Growth is one of my take-aways from 2019.

    Sha know, I look forward to your next output.
    Cheers…and Happy 2020!

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  3. Thanks Ihuoma for sharing these amazing lessons πŸ™‚
    I can particularly to that resting bit. God help me this new year… If there’s one lesson I learned this past year, It is: “Life is short, live already!”

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